Drama is not a spice

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You come home one night and notice a group of girls huddled around your roommate.  She is proudly extending her left hand and you notice a diamond ring glimmering in the light, announcing her news.  

This is what many of you will be seeing this semester and this is what many of you will be experiencing yourself.  So what is your reaction?  Do you join in and congratulate your roommate? Do you brush past her and head straight to your room because inside you just can't believe she is engaged instead of you? Do you make rude comments about how "big" or how "small" her diamond is - because after all - that is what really matters isn't it?


Whether you think you fit this description or not, every girl has been guilty of reacting dramatically to someone else's accomplishment.  I'm not sure if girls are born with a drama gland: secreting gossip, jealousy and spite in the blood stream, or if they simply just find joy in creating havoc.  Drama is drama - and it has got to stop - immediately.


Imagine a world where sincere comments, kind smiles and encouragement were given in place of all the drama out there.  Do you like it when you see a girl sizing you up?  Looking you up and down? Whispering and pointing in your direction?  Ladies, these kinds of things are not spicing up your life. They are making you bitter.


My point:  Girls if you want a boyfriend, a best friend or any sort of lasting relationship, get rid of the drama.  A woman who glows with self esteem built by passion, hard work and happiness in herself radiates attractive.  

Are you just being nice?

Are you just being nice?


Do you give your number out "just to be nice?"


It sounds like that may have been the case with the attached video.  


I came across this a few years ago but just thought of it now.  Hope you enjoy it.  For those who are wondering - this is not the kind of guy girls are looking for!


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Age or Maturity?

Dear Anabelle,

Is it ok for a girl to date a guy younger than her? Does age matter, or is it more about maturity?

Sincerely,

Just Wondering

Just Wondering,

Of course it is ok! When it comes down to it, age really means little as long as the person is at the same maturity level as you. Now, there are of course limits in my opinion (a 17 year old shouldn’t be dating a 27 year old), but if there is chemistry, attraction, and maturity, I don’t see why it wouldn’t work. Go for it!

Tried and truly yours,

Anabelle

Do I move on after a first date or not?

Dear Anabelle,

I have a little trouble knowing when to let go of a love interest and when to keep trying. You see a few weeks ago I went out with a great guy. We had a lot of fun on the date and had great conversation flow. He is just what I have been looking for: very sweet, funny, and gets my odd sense of humor. After the one date we haven't been out again but we have become friends. We text frequently, when we run into each other, we end up talking for longer than we have time for and he never seems to want to leave. Here is the catch. I feel like I have to make all the effort to talk to him and invite him to go hang out. I would have even asked him on a date if I didn't know that he doesn't like girls to do so. My question is if he isn't putting any effort into getting to know me should I just give up?

Sincerely,

Letting Go

Dear Letting Go,

I honestly believe that this generation’s young single adults have forgotten the true purpose of dating. Dating is different from being in a relationship. Dating often leads to a relationship. BUT the whole point of going out on a date is not merely to scope out a potential significant other. Rather, a date (or at least the first) SHOULD be about getting to know someone. So, do not be distraught if this young man has not asked you out again. You have successfully developed a friendship with him and maybe his intentions at the moment are to get to know some young ladies and see what he is interested in. I would not give up on the possibility of a second date. Often, it takes time for someone to come around again for a second date if they are actively dating around. He certainly does not seem disinterested in you if he is putting in the time to talk to you and text you.

In the meantime, do not settle all your hopes on this young man. I would suggest that you keep your options open and date as much as you can and develop friendships with other young men. Truly dating can help you know what you are looking for in a partner. If he does not come around for a second date soon, move on and be grateful for the friendship you developed. This phase of anticipating a second date can be a bit torturous at times. Do not let it get you down. Like I mentioned, a first date really is about getting to know someone.

Tried and truly yours,

Anabelle

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Ditched on a date

Dear Anabelle,


My awkward breaking up story . . .

So I had been flirting with this guys and we had gone on a few dates, but he turned out to be a huge jerk! We were on a double date one night at a street fair in our town.

He told me he would be right back, so I was chatting with the other couple trying to make conversation with them because I didn't know either one of them very well.

Well right back turned into never! I was now the third wheel to their date.

We continued to walk around the fair and we see the guys I was dating holding hands with another girl and kissing her. I was so embarrassed! Luckily the other couple felt bad for me and kept me company the rest of the evening and gave me a ride home.

Lets just say we didn't talk after that.

From, Ditched on a date

(Ditched on a date is now happily married with her second child on the way.)

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Dear Ditched at a date,

Sounds like you dodged a huge bullet without even realizing it.

Any guy who is willing to cheat on you, is willing to cheat on anybody -eEspecially on the girl who now thinks he has left you for her.

A little embarrassment now verses a lifetime of regret, hate, and an unfaithful marriage.

You have shown many others that it is possible to find true love if you stick it out and wait for the right one. He'll come, and the wait will be worth it. Congrats on the new baby coming!

Tried and truly yours,

Anabelle

Happy Valentines Day!

Dear Anabelle,

In my days I have had many different types of breakups. The first was when i was in third grade and I had a crush on the hottest girl in our class, Janelle Carney.

She was tall, blonde, and preppy. I had been waiting for the right moment to present its self so that I could ask her out and then it hit me that I could ask her on Valentine's Day! On that day as I walked down to the bus I stopped at every house and picked fresh flowers and made a bouquet, my hands were so sweaty that when I would cut the flowers off I would inevitably cut my hand on thorns as I attempted to arrange the roses.

Once I got to my class room I saw here and our eyes met immediately, I took one big gulp and walked up to Janelle. Looking at the ground I asked here if she would be my valentine, to which she took the flowers out of my hand, threw them on the ground and spit on them and declared, "No Drew Forester I would never want to be your Valentine!"

The other break ups were more complicated, but to me that one was the second I learned I would never understand why girls are always so mean. From that came a great friendship with Janelle in High School and every year she would apologize for her actions that day. I still feel burned to this day, but atleast now I have a hotter Valentine and a cute little girl to be my valentine.

Breaking Up

Breaking up is hard to do! 

Sometimes relationships don't work out - and sometimes it is hard to say what we really mean.  This was funny - hope you enjoy it.

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